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Not understanding or believing in your abilities stunts your potential. Confidence
is as significant as competence. Knowing technical, transferable, and personal skills
while using them effectively sets you apart. Getting to know those who intimidate
you is important for self-assessment and growth. Overthinking the consequences of
failure keeps you from taking risks. You stay in your mind instead of in the present.
Signs of overthinking include a need to be in control and always seeking perfection.
Trust your gut.
Seeing failure as potential for growth is necessary. Sometimes you need to reset and
reassess what you’re doing and how you’re doing it. Failure teaches you to avoid mistakes,
creates vulnerability through hardship, and, ultimately, makes you more credible.
Failure means you tried, shows you were unwilling to give up, and it promotes humility,
making you more relatable.
How we speak to children determines how they see themselves. If we hear it enough,
we start to believe it. Negative comments affect self-esteem, which affect confidence,
bravery, and a willingness to try. Superficial comments like “You’re so pretty” focus
on qualities that they have little, to no, control over. It doesn’t create a strong
sense of self, but rather starts them on the hamster wheel of improving, and then
sustaining what has become an unattainable degree of physical perfection. We should
compliment their interests and actions before their appearance: make eye contact,
ask questions, and listen to what little girls have to say. Letting them think about
their responses allows them to reflect and practice articulating their thoughts, in
turn, creating and building self-esteem.
"What would you do if you weren’t afraid?" - Sheryl Sandberg
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